Married Life: 3 Months

Thanksgiving 2022 Pic

(taken at Granny’s house)

Three months. I leaned into Blake on the couch the other day and said: we’re 25% through the hardest year of marriage. He laughed and asked if that was good or bad.

It makes sense to me that people say year one can be the toughest. It’s a lot of learning each other, compromising, figuring it out, and apologizing. I’ve had a few days I’ve climbed in bed early and thought: I’ll do better tomorrow. Marriage is work and it takes two people working at not being selfish, at serving each other well. We’ve had plenty of great days but the first three months hasn’t been without it’s disagreements and making up. At the end of the good and bad days though, I’m thankful I get to navigate life and marriage with my favorite person.

Here’s a few highlights from the first three months:

• Officially living on one income, saving the other (for a house on the water)

• Trip of a lifetime honeymoon (Paris, Rome, Munich, Normandy, and Tuscany)

• Decorating our first Christmas tree as a married couple

• For me: our first Christmas cards/Christmas letter

My hopes for the next 3 months (25-50% of the hardest year):

• Continuing to cut back on commitments to spend more time together, at home

• Really being present and enjoying this first married Christmas

• Upping our giving/generosity

I said that marriage is work and it is but I also believe marriage is a gift. As someone who faced so many years alone I’m so thankful to have a partner to face the best and worst days. Blake is my dream teammate. I’m forever grateful to have found him.