Married Life W3: We’re Back!
Boat Day
Inverness, FL
Being honest is important to me so I shared in week 2 that we had to work a lot harder than normal. I’m happy to report that week three felt like we were back to ourselves. Listen, the work will be here to stay and I know that. But after our come to Jesus talk in week 2, week three was back to being more fun and sweetness than bickering and nagging (mostly on my part). For the other newlyweds I’ll say this: if your patterns seem to be getting out of wack I suggest a sit down, face-to-face where you give each other permission to just be honest. Blake didn’t really want to have the sit down but afterwards even he said: thanks for getting me to do that. Sometime you have to air out what’s working, what’s not, and end with: I love you, let’s keep working at the yucky stuff and making the most of all the great things.
We merged our bank accounts in week three and that process was PAINFUL. It took two hours at the bank and my new debit card still came with the wrong name and Blake’s came with his old address. It was honestly all kind of infuriating but also Blake got a little taste for what the name change process has been like for me and on a very positive note: getting along with money is something we’ve been good at from the beginning. We have similar goals and dreams. Blake’s more disciplined than I am but I’m way more administrative (and timely with it) than he is so we make a great team. In the midst of all this we’ve made a plan (and set up auto drafts) to save for a house and our next vehicles (hopefully still 5 years off). Blake is my ideal teammate in life and money - he pushes me but also keeps me generous.
We got to have an early birthday dinner with my parents Friday night and it was delicious and the most fun. They introduced us to Nabruzzi’s a few months back and they make their own pasta in house. Dinner was delicious but it was mostly a great chance to catch up with my parents who we hadn’t seen since before we got married. Fall is a busy time for all of us but I’m so grateful we’re practically neighbors so I still get to sneak in meals, games, and coffee dates. This time of being in the same city has been the greatest gift.
Saturday morning we got up early and got on the road with the dog to Inverness where our friends Alex & Kayla (along with their dog Blu and Kayla’s Dad Boston) gave us the perfect day. We spent all day on the water (as you know, already my favorite place to be) pontooning, eating with friends, and jamming to a great playlist. The lakes in Inverness are BEAUTIFUL and I had never been. They also made me & Boston a cake for our birthdays and we got to celebrate a little early. It was perfect. Even the drive up and back was delightful.
Sunday we spent watching football with Taiter & Jen eating the most delicious food (football food is it’s own genre and I’m here for it). I won at fantasy and the Bucs got their first W in Dallas to start the year so I’m calling NFL week one an overall win. It felt like I got a whole weekend of birthdays leading up to Monday when Blake cooked me an amazing dinner, sent me beautiful flowers, and even look me out to walk around Tjmaxx (my very favorite week night activity).
Telling you about the week kind of covers most of what was good and bad about week three so I’ll make this from a marriage perspective:
Highlight: Blake makes everyday special so I loved that my birthday was a little extra special but still simple and wonderful with my favorite person (and notes from so many of you). Also, I’m extra grateful this week that I have a husband who’s amazing around the house AND does the vast majority of the cooking. #jackpot
Lowlight: Hmm… honestly probably the continuing struggle to change names, merge our lives on paper, and endless amounts of hold music.
